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Where to Put Your Attention

The way we perceive time, and where we put our attention, either creates or removes anxiety and stress.

Anxiety is the anticipation of a negative future event or circumstance. The anxiety is felt in the head, and it is fuelled by fear that is usually held in the tummy. In hypnosis, you removed those things from your energy body. Stress and anxiety will soon become distant feelings for you, replaced with a simple sense of being in the Moment and enjoying the simple delights of life.

Simple delights include being in nature, giving and receiving kindness, preparing and eating healthy meals, maintaining a healthy body, enjoying genuine friendship, music, art, being creative, and many other things that are awaiting your discovery.

5 Ways to Honour Your Body

There are five ways to honour your body. You apply them all in the waking world now in a disciplined way.

You get to bed at a regulated time. You sleep, or rest peacefully for 8 hours each night.
You eat 3 meals each day, and 2 or 3 snacks, usually prepared from home with ingredients that you know to be healthy, hearty, and wholesome.
You move your body for the pure joy of it almost every day of the week. No motivation is necessary. You are inspired to move!
You are always safe. You navigate your life in a way to avoid unreasonable risks. You are mindful, not fearful.
You take the time to look your best, in a way that is genuine and makes you feel good.

Help with Sleep

Please apply some discipline to your sleep regimen so you are assured 8 hours of restful sleep each night. To sleep soundly every night, follow the following protocol:

Make your bed in the morning.
When it is time to prepare for sleep, be intentional about it. Be purposeful about each step.
Honour your body by going about your body-cleaning routine with care.
Before you get in bed, complete some simple ritual that begins to remove you from day-to-day stuff. Even smiling at a favourite photograph is enough.
Once your head is on your pillow, complete a brief review of the day that is ending. When you exhale, release any negative energies that may have attached to you (e.g. frustration, agitation or doubt).
Then preview the next day, noting how you intend to feel that day. For example, create the intentions of feeling joyful and loved; of being productive; and of being healthy and strong in your body.
Notice, in a heartbeat, that you are clear-headed and have a quiet mind. Without effort, welcome that state.
Surrender and release, and let sleep take you.
You'll wake in 8 hours or so - rested, content, at peace with self, and quietly anticipating the coming day that you have already created by way of your intention.

A 5 Minute Meditation

If you can find 5 minutes a day or less, especially in the morning, you might consider adding the following mindfulness practice to your routine:

Sit in a comfortable chair that supports your head and close your eyes.
Pay attention to your breathing for a little while.
Notice the way you are feeling in your body - whether you are feeling strong and healthy, and whether you have any feelings like anger (heart), fear (tummy), anxiety (in your head), or sadness (around you).
If you notice any of these feelings, imagine them being released. You can do this by letting them go when you exhale, or by imagining them fading away or being washed away. Whatever you like.
Once you are feeling clear, fill your body with a feeling of being 'light and bright', and peaceful and content.
If you like, gently touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth to remind yourself of this feeling of calm, peace, and belonging. Don't make a deal of it, just a gentle touch for a moment.
Finally, imagine your day unfolding in a way that is happy, peaceful, and is fulfilling and meaningful, and of course safe, too. In some respects you are creating your day just as it begins - by intending it.
Smile at yourself. Open your eyes, and then gently get on with your day.

These simple steps will take about 5 minutes or less with practice, and the results can be transformative. Make sure that you manage your time so you are not rushed.

To Be Smoke-Free

You have already boldly claimed your victory of becoming smoke-free. It is done. Remember:

No regrets. Regret does not serve you.
When necessary, refer to yourself as being 'smoke-free', not an ex-smoker.
No judgement of others who smoke.
You can tolerate second-hand smoke - and prefer clean air.
Being smoke-free means freedom from all forms of nicotine.
Not even a puff is acceptable.
Your lungs and your heart are your allies in health and are already working diligently to return to a state of health and vitality.
Being smoke-free prompts a quiet celebration within and is the catalyst for other incremental improvements - so you can live your best life.

Kindness

Kindness is probably the best one. The best quality that we can embrace and give … and be.

‘Love’ is great and all – but it almost always introduces stuff that we haven’t thought through entirely. Love is so BIG it tends to introduce attachment and conditions and vulnerability and on and on. We cannot do without it, but Love can get complicated and bring out other energies unwittingly.

‘Compassion’ is great too, but compassion can suggest sympathy – and so in a subtle way introduces the ideas of superiority and judgement – probably not with intention, but they are often there. This can subjugate the object(s) of our compassion to victimhood.

Kindness stands alone. Kindness can be starkly clean. When we are kind to ourselves and to others without any expectation of reciprocity, then we are good. Goodness is kindness. Kindness is goodness. Uncomplicated. Perfect. Kind.

We Belong

We all want to feel safe first. Safe means we are warm enough, properly fed, and protected from immediate threat. Safety is truly, first.

Next, we want to feel secure. Secure simply means that our safety is guaranteed, or nearly guaranteed, for the foreseeable future.

When we are both safe and secure, the physical requirements for life are fully met.

Finally, there is belonging. Belonging is the thing that gives life meaning and connects us to our very existence. Belonging can come in many forms. Often, we find belonging in family, friends, community, work, sport, and religion. These things all offer that warm sense of comfort for a time. Nonetheless, that sense can be fragile since it is dependent on relationships with others (whether human, canine, feline, or otherwise) – and so are subject to failure, breakdown, betrayal, death, and so on.

How about this, then? No pursuit of belonging is required. We innately belong in our lives and on the planet and in the universe. We belong because we are breathing and have a unique spark-of-life within us.

Consider that the Universe expresses itself through us with each breath, and each thought, and each feeling.

We cannot be separate. We belong.

Like the Tide (Intention)

There is nothing as powerful as a deeply held intention.

An intention is not a wish, a hope, or even a prayer. An intention is an invocation of our innate ability to CREATE.

Intentions comes from the core of us. They are quiet and unstoppable. The intended thing may not exist on the planet, still, a deeply held intention is like the tide. It will arrive. It is certain.

Most of us don't pay much attention to the intentions that stir within us. They seem vague and we are trained to focus on thinking and planning our futures. We may disregard or even reject the feelings that come from our core.

So, please, connect with your intentions. Smile at them. Welcome them!

What is it that you truly intend? Once you have embraced these things, they will certainly become your reality. Just like the tide.

Dignity

When we hold our dignity, we are our best selves.

When we hold our dignity, we have a quiet mind. We are present in the moment, and we are naturally authentic without effort or affect. And we honour our bodies and so live with optimal health.

Dignity is inclusive. It is intelligent, kind, forgiving, enabling and empowering of others. Dignity is both disciplined and generous.

When we view life through the lens of dignity, we see the truths about us with clarity. We act with grace, purpose, and humility.

Dignity cannot be stolen, only surrendered. So please, claim your dignity. When it is challenged, simply hold it. Own it. It is yours and it is precious.

Truth

Truth is all around us. It is everything. It is absolute.

It is only our personal perceptions and interpretations that deceive us. We distort, dilute, and ignore truth to align with what we believe to be reality. Our beliefs are not truth. Beliefs are learned, or inherited, or indoctrinated. Our beliefs do not serve us. The more beliefs we hold and support, the further we get from truth.

It is a brave thing to abandon our beliefs. Still, it is possible. If we don’t believe anything, we are left only with truth! We see truth, discern it, and speak it. There is nothing else.

When we see pure truth, we cannot judge it or personally identify with it (that requires belief). We simply acknowledge it. That is enough.
By the way, truth is spelled with a small “t”. If spelled with a capital, somebody is selling you something, like religion, which is belief disguised as truth. Nonsense! Best to stick with the lower-case version.

To see truth, discern truth, and speak truth is to invite contentment and peace into your life, to have a quiet and insightful mind, and to live as an enlightened being.

Language

Here are some simple tips to consider to be applied 24x7:

Almost never use the words 'try' or 'hope'. They leave the door of failure wide open and take away your power.
Replace the word 'but' with 'and'. If you think about it, when you use the word 'but' you negate everything you said before - and so are arguing with yourself.
Avoid the words 'just' and 'very'. 'Just' minimises what you're saying. 'Very' is a filler. It doesn't add anything to language and implies that you are not a serious person.
'Should' and 'must' are awful words. If you use them, you are likely either judging yourself or someone else. You should (must) stop using those words (meant ironically).

Applying these simple rules requires that you be mindful and intentional when you're speaking. That is the more important point.

Self-Deprecation

When you criticize or diminish yourself, whether in self-talk or in front of others, you make your life smaller. For example you might say "I'm not good at ….", or "I can never figure out how to …", or even "that was stupid of me". By speaking in that manner, you reinforce a negative story that you tell yourself.

By removing all self-deprecation from your self-talk and your spoken words, you will find you are positive, optimistic, and outgoing. This simple practice can shift your world in a meaningful way.

What Children Want

We think that children want to be loved. There is something deeper. Our children want to survive. If you think about it, being loved is a means of survival. When our children feel that they are safe (immediate), and secure (longer term), they will come to have some trust in their long-term survival. Children with a deep trust in their survival will develop other kinds of positive behaviours, like curiosity (and learning), kindness, and empathy. Children without such a trust will struggle to do so. They are distracted by the more urgent issue of their uncertain safety, security, or survival.

When parents, by way of consistent and authentic action, not words, assure their children's' survival. Harmony will find its way into the home and the hearts.

Slim Down

The ideas below will reinforce your hypnosis session. They are common sense. Seek professional guidance if necessary.

Food

Eat three meals each day at pretty much the same time each day.
Almost always prepare your meals from home, with love!
If you are not going to be at home for a meal, bring a packed one.
Be mindful of portion size. Usually, two of the meals are modest. One is larger.
Eat two or three snacks a day if it suits you.
Ensure that all meals and all snacks are made from healthy, hearty, and wholesome ingredients that nourish your body and nurture your Spirit.
Do not eat candy, junk food, greasy fast food, and do not drink pop.
Drink alcohol in moderation or not at all.

Exercise

Move your body in an intentional way for at least twenty minutes, almost every day, for the pure joy of it.
Be inspired to move your body. No motivation is required. Inspiration comes from deep within. It is infinitely sourced.
Go to the gym, spin, swim, go for brisk walks, practice Yoga, or enjoy other physical activities that feel right.
How you move doesn’t matter too much. Moving, safely, daily, is everything.

To Protect, Provide, and Please

If you are in a committed relationship, and if you intend to have a lasting and loving one, you have three responsibilities.

Protect your partner. Be mindful, present, and vigilant. Identify risks and act in a way to minimize or remove them without introducing any drama.
Provide for your partner. Provide space, warmth, and understanding. Provide practical things, too, whether it's a paycheck, homecooked meal, or your full attention (offered without any judgement).
Please your partner. Create opportunities for your partner to experience joy and delight, without requiring acknowledgement and without any expectation of reciprocity.

Side Effects

Releasing addiction by way of deep hypnotherapy does not prompt negative side effects. In fact, it will prompt only positive corrections in your life.

Letting go of any addiction is an act of love directed towards self. Why would you replace one addiction, which is an act of self-harm, with another? Instead, you will find yourself 'doubling down' on the self-love by introducing new positive habits, like healthy eating, exercising regularly, and introducing mindful sleep habits. Those are the welcome side effects that come with true addiction-release.

The Relationship Contract

Our relationships can become complex, filled with obligation and expectation. And complex relationships often introduce drama, resentment, and dysfunction. You can replace the complex relationship 'contracts' with a new one, without replacing the person! The new contract might look like this:

I treat myself, and you, with Honour, Dignity and Integrity at all times.
I choose to be Kind to myself, and to you.
I allow Love to flow through me without restriction.

Honour means you speak only the truth. Dignity means you acknowledge the Divinity in self and the other, and Integrity means you recognise yourself and the other to be whole and complete, and to not require the other to be so.

Kindness is a choice. We can choose to be kind to ourselves and others. When we do so, we honour our bodies with proper sleep habits, nutrition and exercise.

Love is different from Kindness. We cannot manufacture Love. Nonetheless, when it presents itself, we allow love to flow through us, including both self-love and the love for others.

Being Me

Here is a longer than usual mantra entitled: "Being Me".

I have a Clear Head, a Quiet Mind, and a Bright Heart.

My Attention is in the Present Moment almost all the time and I Enjoy Being Me.

I allow Abundance of every kind to Flow Through Me without restriction.

Considering printing this, or writing it out, and sticking it in your wallet, purse, or on your refrigerator door!

Discipline and Restraint

To be successful, and to achieve the things that you intend, you must live your life with discipline and restraint. Discipline means doing the things that you might not want to do, like going to the gym simply because it is 'gym day'. Restraint means not doing the things you might otherwise want to do, like eating unhealthy foods or eating too much, or indulging an addiction.

Living a life of discipline and restraint isn't always easy. In some ways, that is what makes it meaningful and fulfilling. After a while it becomes a habit - your very nature. Living your life in this manner will transform your life. That is certain!

You already know these things. Still, your job now is to apply them in your waking life beginning right away. It will take three weeks or thereabouts until these things come naturally. That's OK. As soon as you begin the journey you'll start to feel better about yourself.

The Declaration

If you are a client at Francis Hypnosis, this declaration may be familiar to you.

This is my Body.

This is my Space.

This is my Shield.

(And this is my Sword.)

I am Here, Now,

Whole and Complete,

Safe and Protected.

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